feedback from carers

[jonesy]

hello im new to this site, i would like your feedback on my situation,my dear husband fell and broke his neck last year and through medical negligence( im saying this ) is now completly parilized except nodding or shaking head and slight movement of hand . he has a tra'e & feeding tube .
he was in hospital 9months and is now in a nursing home for the last 9months. although he wants to come home.
i have just started to bring him home in a taxi which is about 50:00 a week.we dont get disability allowance as you have to be under 65,we cant get attendance allowance as he's in a home.i go out every day after work to be with him  both our lives have been destroyed i feel guilty at laeving him there. i want to know how you cope did you give up your lives to look after your husband/wife 

[Andy]

Hi Jonesy,

firstly welcome to the forums, it must be a really difficult  time fr you right now.  We have members here who should be able to give you some valuable insight and answer your questions too.

We also have a specialist spinal injuries solicitor who is a member of the forum who may be able to hep you right now too, I'll let him read this post and ad to it if he can assist you

Andy

[Paul Breen]

Hi there,

As a spinal lawyer I look at the cause of the spinal injury to see how I can help. The way in which we as spinal lawyers can help our clients, can be researched by looking at the services we provide on our website. This includes support with caring and travelling expenses where appropriate. If you would like me to send you some links which may be of use, please drop me a line back.

Paul

[jonesy]

Dear paul
could you please send me some links that might be of use to us, thanks so much Jonesy

[Andy]

Hi Jonesy,

Paul is a  lawyer at 'The Serious Injury Law Practice' heres the link to their website

http://www.seriousinjurylaw.co.uk/international-spinal-injury-lawyers.php

Andy

[Paul Breen]

Jonesy,

I have sent some links to your private inbox. Hope these are of use.

Paul

[Catucci]

Hi Jonesy

So sorry to read your post, what an awful situation.  My hubby was in hospital 9 months, he is paralysed from chest down.  While he was in hospital I had to sell our home and buy a bungalow and have it converted for wheelchair use.  When I think back I don't know how I managed but you don't realise your strengths until they're really tested.  Disability Living Allowance is not just for people over 65.  My hubby claims it and he's 42 but I don't know how you would carry on with him being in a home.  I know you can go to a Citizens Advice Bureau and they can tell you which benefits you will be entitled to.  If you don't have any savings or a way of paying for alterations to your house, Social Services should be able to help.

If you ring Social Services and tell them you want info on DLA (disability living allowance) I'm sure they'd send you some info, or have a look on their website.

xx Cat xx