my 6 year old is paralized

[vee]

I am in lexington,ky, my two children were in a bad car crash on May 4,2009, my 8 yr. old daughter had broken leg and arm and twisted her left leg. My 6 yr old is paralized rite now, his c3 was damaged and can  not feel nothing from his nipple line down, he has no feeling in his legs sometimes he gets senastions of certain things like water, or something cold but if done again he says he can't feel it , we are in a rehab hospital in lexington,ky and it seems he don't want to do nothing, no physcial theropy, nothing, he just wants to lay around all the time and he really hasn't been eating even when we were in the hospital for 24 days. he still complaints his back hurts and his neck but that's about it. I am so lost and confused and angery at what happened to my baby boy. I am so stressed, frustrated, overwhelmed and angry at the person who did this. How can i calm my emotions down is there an easy way to be stronger for my child?

[Andy]

hi vee,

sorry to hear about this awful accident, I really feel for you having children myself.  Theres no real easy way to be stronger less emotional for your son, its probably best if he doesn't see you upset / angry etc but you have every right to feel that way.

Over time hopefully his own outlook will improve but this is a very serious injury which will require a lot of nursing and professional support,

feel free to ask any questions you have here and if and when you feel up to it plese read up on the main site [links at top of page] 

kind regards

Andy

[DavesMom]

I am so sorry to hear about the accident with your kids. My son is now 32 and his accident was 1 year ago today. His injury is at the T-5 level and even at this age, it is hard. I just can't even imagine how a 6 year old feels. He probably doesn't even understand what is going on. Eating is a big thing for him and he needs to keep up his strength. Maybe if you bring him something from home that he likes or even from a fast food place while he is healing. If he is hurting, it is no wonder he does not want to go to therapy. They need to make it somewhat fun for him. They might need to get creative but I am sure if they start slowly they can get him doing something. Is he in a good rehab that works with children? There is no easy answer here. You just have to try different things with him and use what works. He is really a baby at 6 and totally frightened I am sure. You must realize your anger is justified but really won't help your boy at this point. All your energy has to go into whatever it takes to make your kids well. Easier said than done but still has to be done. Deal with your anger later. I am a mom of 4 and know it is hard and it breaks your heart. You can't undo what has happened to him but you have to be the one to make sure he gets the best treatment now. Please know you are all in our thoughts and keep us posted.
DavesMom, Diane

[cate]

Hi Vee.  Sorry I am late in replying.  All you can do is keep as calm as possible and encourage and support your son as I am sure you must be doing.  Also your daughter as she must also feel very traumatised.  I can understand your anger, but that is a wasted  emotion.  Please   come on here and ask what ever questions yhou have. I am sure somebody will be able to help and offer support in some way.  Please do keep us informed, and we hope the news gets better.
Cate

[Janet]

I cant imagine what you are going thru but surely you ought to be getting some support too.  Have you talked to the Nursing staff to tell them how low you feel.  You'll need your spirits when your son is released home.   I wonder if its worth giving your son a music player mp3 isnt it which he can use with head phones when he's lying around.  I think music is a great healing help. 
I hope you get some help soon.
Janet

[Lieveling]

Hey Vee,
welcome here albeit under extremely difficult circumstances.

How are you?
Are you bearing up ok?

The stress and pressure must be intense but you seem confident in your capacities as a mother - this is what your children need now more than ever!

You in turn need support and make sure you get that.

Post again and let us know how you are progressing - I really hope your little one is doing better.
Best wishes,
L

[Tanja]

Hi

Im so sorry to hear about your children, i had my accident in april and i still find it very hard to deal with, but being 6 must be so difficult.

You will find the strength to keep strong for your son, and seeing this hopefully slowly he will start trying to do some work.

As said above, try talking to the staff they deal with this daily they will beable to listen to you and maybe help you and your son work together.

My heart goes out to you x

Tanja