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[miss piggy]

i have noticed my brother-in-law is drinking more and more beer. He drinks everyday it started off about 4 cans a day now his on 7 or 8 .It's 12.30 in the afternoon here and his asking me to get him a beer    Just a bit worried

[Gary Anderson]

I would try and curb that Miss Piggy. I know from experience how you can forget your situation if you are boozed. However, if you dont watch out you become alcohol dependant and I did not fancy joining AA. One or two is fine but if it is like that regularly - that is a problem. That is my medical opinion.

[miss piggy]

Thanks Gary for repling .i must admitt i am worried i have tried talking to him but he just wont respond .The other problem is his brother has just moved in with him coz his lost his house through drink .I am scared they will just encourage each other.My husband is another brother his tried talking to them .They just say his boring and does not know how to enjoy life

[Gary Anderson]

I know it's hard Miss Piggy but you can only do what you can do. If your BIL will not stop drinking and you and hubby have tried talking to him then pass the buck to your doctor, health visitor or anyone who comes into tend to him. Otherwise, I fear, he will be on the rocky slope of alcoholims and that will be worse than the crippling injuries already suffered.

[miss piggy]

Thanks gary
got the distict nurse here tomorrow so i will have a chat with her .It's such a shame his such a good guy and i love working with him ,but i do worry  Thanks again

[Gary Anderson]

No problem Miss Piggy - glad to have helped.

[Andy]

agree thats starting to get a bit of a habit, guess tact and diplomacy will have to be used, good luck

[Gary Anderson]

Good job it's not me because tact and diplomacy are two things I lack (so my Mum tells me).

[Jilly]

Hi Miss Piggy...I come from a long line of heavy drinkers and I have seen the damage it can do first hand. Peer pressure is present at any age - not just teenagers etc. These guys think that drinking is all important. Its what a MAN does. My ex-fiance used to drink until he fell asleep - very often (like 4-5 times  week) and in the process used to get abusive. What it does is cause a lot of heartache. A couple is fine - a lot is not.
Discourage it if you can...but be careful. These guys dont like to be told what to do - especially by a mere female.
Good luck

[miss piggy]

Hi all
Thanks for your replies.Spoke to nurse this morning she going to pop in and see him .So hopefully he will take there advise .Thanks again

[mttb14]

How are things now.  Alcoholism is terrible to live with.  The comments Jilly made described my ex husband perfectly.

He was the nicest man you could meet and I know he loved me as much as I loved him, but then, along came alcoholism and his new work mates.  He had to be one of the boys, couldn't say no to them, straight to the pub from work, then home, changed and back to the pub.  He always wanted me to go to the pub with him, but I don't even like alcohol, so after several diet cokes later, and boredom listening to a load of drunks.  The change of personality with every mouthful of alcohol he drank until I knew the shit was going to hit the fan and I would have a night of mental torture until he finally fell asleep.

14 years of being together, straight down the pan, divorce followed the abuse, (mental and the threat of physical), drink driving no matter what I said, empty promises, and a ruined happy home, followed by him then having sex whilst drunk with a so called friend of mine.

As it turned out it was his loss and John's gain (at least I hope he thinks so).  He then married a female alcoholic and they drove one another mad, she set fire to their living room with him asleep in it, he was rescued, she was locked up for her safety, then she escaped and took an overdose of alcohol and tablets.  She was in her early 40's.  He's 44 looking 65 (and thats an insult to a 65 year old).

So deal with any signs of alcoholism as soon as it starts, because it gets a grip and is really hard to live with, and very hard to get rid of.

Maria

[miss piggy]

Hi mttb 14
First of all i wont to say sorry for taking so long to reply. Things have got a lot better since we all stopped nagging him . His not drinking everyday now which is good .He has been busy the last few weeks which i think has helped him not drink so much . After reading your post it sounds like you had a lucky escape and i so glad you have found happiness 

[Gary Anderson]

Glad to hear it Miss Piggy. HOpe things continue to improve for you both.

[Andy]

thats good news ..... 

[mttb14]

Hi Miss Piggy,

How are things these days, is everything still improving.

Being a carer is hard work and it sounds like you have to do a lot more care work than I do.

Maria